Having a miscarriage is a very traumatic experience, and not just for the mom but for dads and other moms too. There is a difference in loss that moms carrying the child feel though. Many women feel like it’s their fault when they have a miscarriage when in fact statistics show a very small percentage of miscarriages actually have to do with a woman’s lifestyle or body.
If you have experienced or know someone who has experienced a miscarriage there are a few things to take into consideration. Emotional healing takes much longer than the physical healing does take. Many people experience feelings such as depression, guilt, shock, sense of failure, sadness, disbelief and hopelessness. These emotions will take physical shape through trouble sleeping or sleeping a lot, appetite loss, headaches and disconnecting from others. Allow yourself or them to go through this and give yourself/them some time. A miscarriage is a loss and grieving processes need to be gone through.
Relationships are greatly affected because one or both partners may isolate themselves. Many men report feeling like they shouldn’t talk about their feelings because they don’t want to take away from their partners. This is not the time to hold back or isolate, open communication and comfort between one another will help each other the most during this.
Seek support from friends and family. Miscarriage occurs in 15-25% of pregnancies so it’s extremely likely you know someone or multiple people who have experienced one and hearing their stories and coping strategies can be helpful.
Many women go on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby, even after multiple miscarriages so please do not give up hope.